Not Sorry Series – Vol. 1

Thing I’m not sorry for: My toddler crying, pouting, throwing tantrums, etc.

Save your sideways glares, exasperated sighs and general acts of snobbiness. Here’s the deal: Adults have learned and have the capability to control themselves, their actions and reactions, and their understandings of situations and surroundings. Two-year-olds are not. I refuse to let any adult, especially those who are childless, make my son or my family feel less than because we are in public when he has a meltdown or a bad day. If that’s you, you can fuck right off.

“When I’m a parent, my kid will never do that.” Haha. Every other parent and I are rooting you on. Good luck. We’ll be on the sidelines, same sidelines you sat and judged us at when our kid threw a tantrum at Target, watching you.

An article circulated a few months ago about parents preemptively creating care packages for passengers on a flight that included goodies of some sort, including candies, ear plugs and some note that basically said, “Sorry, I’m two and it’s my first flight. I apologize for any fussing and crying. Here are some goodies to make up for it.” WHAT. Get the fuck out of here. 1 – I do not assume the worst in my kid. I will comeย prepared – snacks, toys, crayons – whatever. I will not assume he will be a shit show. And 2 – Read above. I expect adults to be able to behave as adults, even when theres a child crying on board. If you really wanted to be baby-free on your flight, you should’ve forked over the extra cash to sit in business or first class, otherwise, enjoy your time back here with us in Economy. Lastly, I will not offer approval for others to make my son or me feel like we are the one needing forgiveness or permission. I don’t think any parent traveling with a small child should. We have enough to worry about.

What do you think?ย Should I be more apologetic about my kid throwing tantrums and being unruly in public?

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INTJ. Lover & Fighter. Techie.
Manila > California

Just another little lady with a keyboard, camera and website. My family and my career come first, in that order, without compromise. I love and I hate with my whole heart, and I believe in consciously practicing kindness every single day. Fighting, technology and scrapbooking excite me. I tend to carry a lot of anxiety, for better or for worse; I forgive easily, forget rarely; and my passions and opinions run deep. I'm a romantic realist; and I am not a feminist. I don't know where I'm going, but neither do you, so follow me anyway.

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